Many of you may have already seen this video (below) of a mom in Baltimore slapping around her son for taking part in the riots. Think what you will, but I am encouraged to see a mom tracking down her son and removing him by force from the situation which could have saved his life – if not now, perhaps in the future.
It didn’t take a hot minute though before white people were being blamed by black racists for a black woman hitting her black son…
The kind of violent discipline Graham unleashed on her son did not originate with her, or with my adoptive mother who publicly beat me when I was a child, or with the legions of black parents who equate pain with protection and love. The beatings originated with white supremacy, a history of cultural and physical violence that devalues black life at every turn. From slavery through Jim Crow, from the school-to-prison pipeline, the innocence and protection of black children has always been a dream deferred.
I’ve found several other instances that black people face on a routine basis which should also be blamed squarely on whites, white people and white supremacy…
- When a fast food restaurant forgets to put napkins in their bag.
- When someone goes in front of them without using a blinker.
- When the people in the elevator don’t hold the door open.
- When a waiter takes just a bit too long to take their order.
- When a store doesn’t have their shoe size.
- When they miss their freeway exit.
- When the ATM doesn’t work.
- When their ice cream melts.
- When it rains.
This is why it sucks to be white. When all of these things happen to me, and they happen all the time, I just assume it’s bad customer service, bad manners, poor inventory controls, my own distractedness, bad luck, or the laws of physics but if I were only born black, I could blame all of these problems on white people instead. I know…I’ll just blame being born white on white people. At least THAT one is true!